Toxic Patterns Decoder

A way to tell the difference between a difficult person and a broken system.

Some workplace problems feel personal but are actually structural. This tool helps you recognize common toxic patterns so you can stop blaming yourself and get clearer about what options you actually have.

What this is

The Toxic Patterns Decoder is a short diagnostic designed to help you name what is happening around you at work. It does not label people or tell you what to do. It gives you language for patterns that are often confusing by design.

You may find this useful if

• You feel tense or guarded at work but cannot quite explain why

• Rules or expectations seem to change depending on the situation

• Feedback feels unpredictable or inconsistent

• You keep wondering whether the problem is you

What you get

• A short list of common toxic workplace patterns

• Clear signals to look for in each pattern

• Guidance on why these environments create self-doubt

• Space to reflect before deciding on next steps

What this is not

This is not a diagnosis.
It is not advice to confront anyone.
It is not a checklist for fixing a bad system.

How to use it

Read through the patterns slowly. Notice which ones feel familiar. Do not rush to action. Clarity comes first.

If you want help thinking through what this means for your situation, you can learn more about my programs here.